Monthly Archives: February 2012

5 Things to Learn from Sophia Bush



I have got an absolute girl-crush on Sophia Bush. Ok, maybe not really, but I think she is such an inspirational and beautiful woman. And given that this is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week 2012, I think “SB” is the first woman I want to highlight as being a stand-out. There are a few things that ladies, young and old, could learn from her.

(1) Spread the Love.

Sophia is extensively involved in charity work. She has raised over $210,000 for various organizations through–a pretty sweet way to raise money for your favorite “causes” online. She won a contest sponsored by Mozilla Firefox for raising the most money for the catchy charity “F Cancer.”. Like myself, she is passionate about Louisiana and Africa, and she has done tons of work for the Gulf Coast, including a half-marathon. Among the numerous charities she supports is Art of Elysium, Pencils for Promise, and my absolute favorite: I Am That Girl. You get the picture. She’s using her success to promote truly respectable organizations.

(2) Be  Comfortable in Your Own Skin

As a supporter of I Am That Girl, Sophia seems to understand the negative affects that the media has on our youth, but she is not one to cave in to pressure. I don’t think we’ll ever see her on the cover of a tabloid with protruding ribs, seemingly yearning for a cheeseburger. She is curvy and healthy, exactly what a woman should be. And exactly what every man in America thinks is sexy.

(3) Aint Nothing Wrong with Being Mouthy

Unless my perception skills have waned, I do not see SB as the timid, sweetie-pie type. She says what’s on her mind, but does so with class. She has spoken out about her support for gay marriage and the keystone XL pipeline. Also, see her hilarious “Mob Wives” rendition on Funny Or Die. Really, go watch it.

(4) Attitude of Gratitude

If you follow Sophia on twitter, you see that she is constantly acknowledging the people she loves and admires. She is a passionate advocate and seems to have some solid friends, whose talent she is always raving about. Everyone knows that you can’t get to the top unless you’ve had some help along the way, and SB makes sure that her friends know how much she appreciates them.

(5) Friends CAN Disagree

This is something I have learned from paying attention to SB’s twitter: You can disagree on fundamental political beliefs with someone, and still be friends. However, in articulating your own political beliefs, it is vital that you know WHY you feel that way. This is what I love about Sophia Bush, and weirdly is probably my favorite thing about her (next to her charity work.) If forced to classify myself, I would say I’m conservative/libertarian…but I’m a “new type of conservative.” SB is definitely more liberal, but she is knowledgable as to why she believes what she does. I believe that one of the biggest problems we face in 2012, without truly recognizing it, is our inability to maintain friendships with people who believe differently than us. For some reason, we think that we have to stick to our “own kind.” This is nonsense. In order to strengthen your beliefs and be more open-minded it is vital that you find common ground with people who disagree with you. This is part of becoming a person who exercises enthusiasm, and not judgment. I love Sophia Bush because she can articulate what she believes, and why, but she doesn’t express herself by belittling others. Now that’s a friend I’d love to have in my corner.


National Eating Disorders Awareness Week 2012!


Today is the first day of NEDA Week 2012! I always look forward to this week each year. It is a week for me to be proud of how far I have come, and a week for me to be rejuvenated in my quest to be healthy in the future. You see, an eating disorder is not like the stomach flu or a common cold. It is a disease. Once you truly have an “eating disorder,” you really have it for the rest of your life. It never just goes away. It’s always there to remind you that you have a long road ahead of you. BUT, you can beat it. How do I know this? Because I did…


Reasons to Love & Save Pandas!



Reasons to Love and Save Pandas

Panda bear
With a panda bear’s teddy bear appearance, it is impossible not to gush over an adorable panda bear photo. So get ready to fall in love, and get the urge to save these furry black and white bears.

Love Panda Bears

  • Cubs are playful animals that learn survival skills from their mothers. When they become adults, their distinguishable color combination appears.
  • They are all white with the exception of their black ears, legs, tear drop shaped circles around their eyes, and a strip from their arms to their back.
  • Panda Bears are located at the top of Yangtze Basin, a small mountain area in central China filled with bamboo. Their diet consists of bamboo, eating an outstanding 30 to 45 pounds of it a day.
  • A male panda bear’s average height is about two-three feet tall when standing on all four legs and weighs from 175-250 pounds. Females are a half a foot shorter and weigh from 150-225 pounds.
  • Although panda bears may be big,they are as friendly as they look. Well, except when you mess with their cubs.

Save Panda Bears

  • There are less than 1600 panda bears in the world, meaning they are endangered species on the brink of extinction.
  • Panda bears usually only give birth to one cub at a time, making it harder to keep them from becoming extinct.
  • Humans contribute by hunting panda bears because of their unique fur and color.
  • Global warming, farming and deforestation are reasons for their endangerment.
  • With a diminishing habitat, it has become harder and harder for giant panda bears to obtain bamboo.

Why I Quit Watching the VS Fashion Show



Adriana Lima, 30, recently revealed to the Telegraph what it actually takes to be a Victoria’s Secret angel. The girls aren’t born looking like perfection and have to work extremely hard to get that perfect body. Contrary to what some might believe, strict dieting and intense routine workouts are a must to be able to attain that supermodel figure. Lima goes into detail to explain what goes on in the days and weeks leading up to the show.

She has a personal trainer that works out with her every single day and has been since August. Her workouts have moved up to twice a day during the last three weeks. She explains that “It is really intense, it’s not really the amount of time you spend working out, it’s the intensity: I jump rope, I do boxing, I lift weights, but I get bored doing that. If I am not moving I get bored very easily.” Lima also sees a nutritionist that details every part of her body including muscle mass and fat ratio. Nine days before the show she gives up all solids and only drinks protein shakes along with a gallon of water a day. 12 hours before the show happens, Lima will not drink anything at all. The chief stylist for the show Sophia Neophitou, says that “It’s like they’re training for a marathon.”

Although the work is very tough, and the workout grueling, Lima explains that it is all worth it in the end because of the notoriety you get from being in the show. ”It opens up so many doors, everyone knows your name, the whole world knows you now,” she says ”Any model in this world would love to be an Angel.”

Read More: Telegraph

Habit 1– Be Proactive


This first habit is one that focuses entirely on the self. Because we, as humans, are the only creature who have the ability to actually think about our very thought processes (aka “self-awareness), we are therefore able to see how we view ourselves and others. This ability allows us to act, rather than merely being acted upon. One important lesson that I really got from this habit was that we have the freedom, or the power, to choose how we respond to any given stimulus (occurrence/situation/event.) Unlike animals, we in fact have a step in between “the stimulus” and “our response.” Right in the middle, we have the ability to decide within ourselves how everything around us is going to affect us. Covey gives the story of Viktor Frankl during the Holocaust, which is an incredibly illustrative story.

This was really difficult, yet amazing, for me to hear. “As humans, we are truly responsible for our own lives. Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values. We have the initiative and the responsibility to make things happen.”

Responsibility–“response-ability”=the ability to choose your response!

Most of us, including myself admittedly, are usually reactive when it comes to making a choice as to whether or not we will let outside conditions affect us. Reactive people let things such as bad weather or negative people/media control them.

The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values–carefully thought about, selected and internalized values.

Therefore, until each of us truly accepts the fact that we are where we are today because of the choices we made in the past, we are not able to decide to choose otherwise. Take responsibility for letting others affect you. It is not what happens to us that affects us, but it is instead how we react. It is the major events, both amazing and devastating, that force us to actually decide how to respond, and then it is with that response that we shape ourselves. So don’t just say that “if only I HAVE more money, then I will be happy.” BE HAPPY. Focusing on being, rather than having. Take control over your feelings and responses, be proactive.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People


I have had this book for years, but only recently have really decided to crack it open and read/study it. So far, I agree with the millions of people who have read it. Stephen R. Covey is truly brilliant. Therefore, I am going to go through each of the 7 habits and give a brief  synopsis on the main lessons I took away from each habit. It would be impossible to put everything I learn into a single post, so therefore consider this a little spoiler…and go buy the book!

Paradigm–basically is the way that we “see” the world; “see” in terms of perceiving, understanding, & interpreting (not the visual sense)

Paradigm Shift–is that “Aha!” experience when someone finally “sees the composite picture in another way. The more bound a person is by their initial perception, the more powerful their Aha! experience is–like turning on a light bulb inside.

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are–or, as we are conditioned to see it.”

“The more aware we are of our basic paradigms, maps, or assumptions, and the extent to which we have been influenced by our experience, the more we can take responsibility for those paradigms, examine them, test them against reality, listen to others and be open to their perceptions, thereby getting a larger picture and a far more objective view.”

So, what Covey is saying is that the key to making huge, significant change, is to work on our basic paradigms. The only way to make huge change in your life is to start at the core. You can’t just focus at changing your attitudes and behaviors because that is not change at the core, which is not going to result in real, long-term change. The only real way to achieve amazing improvement in our lives is to focus on the core which is the paradigms from which our attitudes and behaviors actually flow. Once we change these paradigms, we can change the way that we see the world. Because you cannot separate paradigms from your character. “Being is seeing in the human dimension. And what we see is highly interrelated to what we are.”

Covey talks about the principle-centered paradigm, and says that we need to focus on the Character Ethic as opposed to the Personality Ethic. “The Character Ethic is based on the fundamental idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness.” These principles are natural laws that cannot be broken, they are what governs human growth and happiness, and they are in fact the “objective reality.” Principles are not practices. Practices are situationally specific, but principles are deep fundamental truths that have universal application. “When these truths are internalized into habits, they empower people to create a wide variety of practices to deal with different situations.” They are also not values. Principles are the territory. Values are maps. “Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value. They’re fundamental. They’re essentially unarguable because they are self-evident.”

On the other hand, the Personality Ethic is the “get rich quick” scheme that always promises you “wealth without work.” While it may seem to work, you are still the same person, and the scheme does not result in long-term success. This book instead focuses on a principle-center, character-based, “inside-out” approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness.

The inside-out approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves precedes making and keeping promises to others. It says it is futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve relationships with others before improving ourselves.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.  -Aristotle

HABIT: intersection of knowledge, skill & desire; in order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all 3!