I was so excited when I came across this article on HelloGiggles. It is me to a ‘T’.
Today I modeled (well, “modeled”) in a fashion show that was part of a bridal extravaganza. As soon as I walked into the venue at 10am, I knew that this was one of those textbook occasions where I should’ve just said “NO.” I have never, ever, been the type of girl to daydream about weddings. Ask my parents, or my friends, or anyone that has brought up the topic of a wedding in my presence. I don’t place nearly as much emphasis on them as 99% of American females do. Before you shockingly ask yourself why, perhaps you should just mosey on over to your next local bridal show.
From the moment I walked in, a number of cliche love quotes starting running through my head, only to reaffirm my hypothesis–> weddings do not prove love; not real love anyway.
Think about these…
You don’t marry someone you can live with – you marry the person who you cannot live without. Unknown Author
Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well… Vincent van Gogh
Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. St. Augustine
To love another person is to see the face of God. Les Miserables
Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have so to speak pawned a part of their narcissism. Sigmund Freud
So although these are borderline corny, these descriptions of “love” do not include any reference to the extravagance associated with the modern wedding. Isn’t love between a husband and a wife supposed to be unconditional? I don’t think forcing your spouse, your parents, or yourself to go broke, in order to throw the biggest wedding, is what Sigmund Freud had in mind. You can’t say you love your man unconditionally, if you condition such love upon his agreement to let you throw a huge wedding.
For example, I love cake just as much as any American, and I can appreciate a good episode of “Cake Boss,” but nobody really needs to spend thousands of dollars on something that is going to be consumed and later excreted. Why not just hop onto Google, and look up ways to make your own sweet wedding cake. I would have way more fun screwing up a cake with my Mother, and then dimming the lighting at the reception to cover its flaws, than I would having to remember the fancy $5,000 cake 3 years later when I’m still paying for it. And this is just one example, weddings are cash-cows. They are a commercialization of Hollywood love, which is why our country has the hardest time keeping our divorce rate down.
A wedding should not be stressful. It should not break families apart, or force them to go broke in order to satisfy a childish dream of a huge wedding that in fact will only last a few hours. Wake up girls. If you truly love the man who will be waiting at the end of the aisle, then forget the overpriced flower arrangements, and spend more time in Bora Bora doing the dirty dirty.
Well, I am. I can’t stand cosmo magazine. The only time I get a chance to even read magazines is during my (rare) gym workouts. However, I absolutely cannot read Cosmopolitan while rocking the elliptical at my local Nebraska gym. I have tried, I was mortified. Either I am too shy, or “100 Best Sex Positions of the Month” is something that most people are uncomfortable reading amidst 20 other gym rats. This magazine would make me blush if I read it in the comfort of my own home, let alone while being watched by the usually gym creepers.
I have always loved Dakota Fanning, she is one of my favorite actresses. I think she’s a bit more sheltered though than people would like to believe, and therefore any blame for this has to go on her parents. I don’t know how I feel about it yet though. I suppose it depends on the content of the article on her. However, I don’t think I’d want to put my 17 year old on a cover of this soft porn periodical…even if she was wearing a turtleneck and talking about bunnies. There’s just something weird about her face being on a magazine along with numerous other erotic headlines.
Did I mention I have a problem with a mag that is published largely by women, but that gains most of its income by purporting to know “what men want.” Well, I digress.
It comes as no surprise that a large number of recent college graduates are unable to obtain employment following their graduation. See Yahoo Article
It also comes as no surprise that members of the baby-boomer generation are encouraging these same graduates to seek out any job, regardless of whether or not they’re in fact overqualified for such, and it often seems that these boomers find recent graduates to be self-righteous brats with an entitlement complex, merely because these same young people often refuse to be the (proverbial) “burger flipper.” This happens to piss me off.
First, I do generally laugh at those kiddos who graduate from college, and hold out their hand; expecting someone to give them a great job because, by-golly, they’re now entitled to it. To elaborate… I have a problem with a general sense of entitlement. However, (pay attention boomers) there is a HUGE difference between these types of grads, and those grads that refuse to be “burger flippers.” I will tell you right now, it will be a cold day in hell that this girl would work a minimum wage job after graduating with honors, and 2 degrees. Why? Because I am far too overqualified. I AM above that. This does not mean that I believe I am entitled to an incredible job relevant to my qualifications, but I am entitled to reject a pathetic job that does not require me to use my educational experience. Dear Boomer, would YOU? I didn’t think so. Not when many students go thousands and thousands of dollars into debt to get those damn degrees. And lets not forget the hospital bills for the 3 times they had their stomach pumped. It all adds up, believe it or not. But back to my rant.
As many young Americans do, I grew up being told that if I didn’t want to be a Wal-Mart greeter or a burger flipper, I had to get good grades and goto college. Isn’t it funny that the same boomers who pushed us to goto college (and graduate school) are the same ones now calling recent grads self-righteous entitlement brats because they refuse to work as a greeter or flipper?
Stay tuned for my criticism of the current educational system…as it happens to coincide…
This site is incredible, and definitely contributed to my decision to finally share my journey to getting healthy. While our inspirations derive from experiences on opposite ends of the spectrum, I love everything she shares on this site and hope I can inspire others just as she has. Stay tuned… for 2012 I am going to begin to add healthy recipes, advice, and inspiration to Upchuck Daily.
“It’s not what you go through that defines you; you can’t help that. It’s what you do after you’ve gone through it that really tests who you are.”